If you are in a Dharmic–Abrahamic relationship, for example, Hindu, Jain, Buddhist or Sikh with someone who is Jewish, Christian or Muslim, these are important questions to discuss before marriage, rather than after.
Love is important, but marriage also involves religion, family expectations, children, traditions and daily life. Before making a commitment, ask your partner to discuss these questions with their parents and, where appropriate, their religious or community leaders. This is important because an individual's answer may change when family or religious expectations become involved.
For each question you record where the two of you stand: discussed and agreed, discussed but not yet agreed, or not yet discussed. Notes are optional. At the end you get the list of questions still open, which is the agenda for a conversation, or for a session with Dilip Amin, PhD.
Nothing you enter leaves your browser. There is no account, no submission and no server behind this page. If you would rather have the list on paper, download the PDF.
One final thought
These questions are not intended to discourage interfaith marriage. They are intended to encourage couples to have difficult conversations before marriage, when there is still time to understand differences, negotiate expectations and make informed choices together.
The goal is not to eliminate every difference. The goal is to know what those differences are, and to agree on how you will handle them before they become sources of conflict.
Working through them with Dilip Amin, PhD
The open questions above are the ones to bring. A private video session, with the two of you or with your families, on the questions that are hardest to settle on your own.
Your open questions are carried to the booking form so you do not have to explain twice. They stay on this device until then.
Keep a copy
Your answers as a PDF, made on this device: all twenty questions, where you stand on each, your notes, and today’s date. Nothing is sent anywhere. And the printed list itself, to take to your partner and to both sets of parents.
The questions are Dilip Amin, PhD’s, unchanged.
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